Sugar baby. It’s a term I had heard but never really thought much about. It wasn’t until about a year ago that I really found out what sugar baby meant. A good friend of mine told me about his adventures as an escort. Money, trips, and of course, sex. We talked about an escort vs a sugar baby and I found myself thinking, “I could totally do that”. Be a sugar baby, that is, not an escort. That’s when my research began. As a second year grad student, research has become second nature to me. What does the research say? Can it be supported with evidence? What methods were used to verify the findings? These questions run through my head on a daily basis, not just in terms of school work, but in every aspect of my life. Silly, right? I guess that’s what grad school will do to you, force you to be logical.
Anyway, I began to research sugar babies. Blogs, articles, TV, documentaries, anything I could get my hands on. Youtube “Sugar Baby”, the results are ridiculous and I watched every single one. I even made a profile on SeekingArrangement with no intention of ever meeting up with the men I corresponded with, just to get a feel for it. It seemed easy enough, but I still struggled with actually doing it. Could I actually meet up with someone I met online? Could I actually accept money for my time? And the big one, could I actually sleep with someone 20 years older than me for the security of money and gifts? (Spoiler alert, hell fucking no)
Alright, so it seemed like a viable plan, but why on earth would a good girl, from a good home like myself even consider this lifestyle? I’m a normal(ish) girl with a part time job and a future so bright I need shades. But, there are some things I am looking to get out of this whole thing.
1. Money. Duh. I’m not dead broke, but grad school does do a number on a girls’ bank account. I have no idea, nor do I want an idea of how much money I will owe whoever it is that paid for my college education when this thing is done. Having a stable foundation of a couple grand to live off of while I sort out my life wouldn’t be a bad thing. I’ve also half planned a European vacation as a reward for completing 20 years of education. Seriously, I’ve earned it.
2. Money. Seriously… that’s all I want. I’ve read countless sugar baby profiles all claiming to want “life experiences, a travel partner, a mentor/friend, blah blah blah.” Shut up, you all want money. Gifts, dinners, and shopping sprees all sound nice. But I’d rather just take the money and run.
So all it came down to was the moral issue. Could I do this? I wavered back and forth for months. Some days it seemed easy, other days I was sure I was loosing my mind to even consider it. Then, one day, as I floated around in my parents pool, it came to me. A business arrangement. That’s all this is. As long as I go in with clear intentions and make those intentions known, then there is nothing wrong with this. I am NOT having sex for money. In fact, I’m not having sex at all. I’m hanging out with older, lonely gentlemen, and being paid for my time, conversation, and compliments. It’s no different than one of those wing woman business, or a professional snuggler (yes, it’s real, I saw it on Yahoo). I am simply a business woman who is about to dip her toes in a very lucrative business venture.